Even a big man need to cry. That's my opinion. I saw a policeman shed a tear in a singer audition, because he suddenly remembered his wife. And then, this evening it happened on me. I felt like want to cry because of ...something. Hey, what happened?
Simply it remind me, that I'm not a strong enough lady emotionally. I've been tired to be such a listener of someone, who always want to tell me her problem. FYI, she always tell me the same problem. That's repetition. Must I write here who she is?
Well, I don't mind to listen someone's story, although I can't give any solution. I think what she need now is changing her attitude, her mindset, to try for her goodness. Not to claim someone every time for her condition. But the problem is she never try to do that. :(
OK. Thinking about this bring me to a psychology problem. I understand, it's not easy to change someone's mind. At least it need process. My sad feeling remind me to prepare my own condition. A listener also need some other listeners. The same with advisory, doctor, and so on... I decided to tell some persons who need to know about this, and I think they can help.
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Monday, May 7, 2012
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Be Healthy!
That's what I say (just in my mind) lately, everytime I realize there's something wrong with myself emotionally.
Well... Suggestion. I begun to use that command to suggest myself how my attitude should be, either to myself or to the other. I could not let people think I was too fierce and not a nice person. NO.
I'm sure, this wasn't my problem only. Hey, was this such a hormonal? Hmmmm.... I don't think so. I mean... I don't really know, but I think this was about the wrong perception in my head, which was set up by my ego and emotional analysis.
Any bad customer is coming at the wrong time, for example at lunch hour? Before showing wierd gesture because of the emotional expression, soon I have to tell myself wisely, "Be healthy!" That's actually the same as "Calm down, please!!" Or, "Set yourself free now! It's OK."
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Well... Suggestion. I begun to use that command to suggest myself how my attitude should be, either to myself or to the other. I could not let people think I was too fierce and not a nice person. NO.
I'm sure, this wasn't my problem only. Hey, was this such a hormonal? Hmmmm.... I don't think so. I mean... I don't really know, but I think this was about the wrong perception in my head, which was set up by my ego and emotional analysis.
Any bad customer is coming at the wrong time, for example at lunch hour? Before showing wierd gesture because of the emotional expression, soon I have to tell myself wisely, "Be healthy!" That's actually the same as "Calm down, please!!" Or, "Set yourself free now! It's OK."
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Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Seperti Mengubah Pola Pikir
Jika dibandingkan dengan tugas rutin di pekerjaan saya, berbisnis secara langsung seperti ini seperti hal baru bagi saya.
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Saya bersyukur, beberapa waktu yang lalu sempat mendapat training online yang diadakan oleh grup bisnis saya dBC Network. Tentu saja ini untuk kepentingan bisnis marketing di luar urusan kantor. Yup, bisnis Oriflame. Padahal MLM apapun produknya sempat menjadi momok bagi saya, sehingga saya lebih memilih jadi anakbuah saja di perusahaan orang lain.
Eh, emang sebenernya member-member MLM itu anakbuah atau independent, sih? Koq ada yang namanya downline, yang otomatis di benak para calon member mereka akan jadi (seolah-olah) bawahan para upline?
Mungkin karena saya juga belum lama join di usaha ini, maka saya pikir wajar kalau saya jadi sering memperhatikan di mana letak bedanya. Seperti contoh, saat saya tidak bisa memenuhi syarat tupo untuk mendapat bonus. Memang sebenarnya tidak ada pemaksaan. Jadi tidak ada keharusan pula untuk takut, sampai mengarang alasan, 'Aduh, saya ...... sorry, ya ......' seolah kita adalah bawahan yang akan mendapat teguran dari atasan. No! Kalau toh saya sempat memberi jawaban seperti itu, itu hanya bentuk rasa sungkan saja. Kasihan kan, upline yang sudah perhatian. :)) So, upline di sini hanya mengingatkan saja.
Memang, bukan berarti kita tidak bisa bergabung jika niat dari awal memang bukan untuk bisnis, melainkan untuk mendapat diskon, misalnya. Cumaa.. jika ternyata bisa dijadikan usaha kedua, dan mungkin nantinya justru jadi usaha utama, saya pikir ngga ada ruginya dicoba, dong. Justru bukan hanya ngga ada ruginya, melainkan rugi kalau sampai tidak diniatin untuk dicoba. :)) Keuntungannya buat diri kita sendiri, koq. Dan buktinya sudah banyak yang sukses. Salahsatunya, founder jaringan saya sendiri, mba Nad.
Memang, sewajarnya tidak ada bisnis yang langsung dengan mudah dilakoni. Setidaknya ini menurut saya (dan tentunya beberapa member lain). Perlu waktu menyesuaikan diri, baik sebagai penjual, downline dan kemudian sebagai upline. Namun di sinilah letaknya, saya makin penasaran dengan yang namanya "kemampuan". Mungkin karena bagi saya, yang juga menarik dari tiap perjuangan selain keuntungan adalah usaha nyatanya sendiri. Sama halnya dengan rasa suka saya jika menyimak perjalanan usaha wirausahawan secara mandiri, dari nol sampai sukses. Jiwa enterpreneurship. hmm.. (Jempol buat kesuksesan mereka, apapun bidang usahanya.)
Well, posting entri ini bukan berarti saya sudah perfect. Belum banget. Saya masih baru di sini. Tapi saya tetap terus belajar. Harus fokus! Kan saya sendiri yang menginginkan ikut, karena selain ingin mewujudkan mimpi saya juga merasa tertarik. Penasaran. Karena sebenarnya banyak ilmu yang bisa saya gali untuk kekayaan mindset saya sendiri. (Dan finally, saya jadi menemukan formula sendiri buat menjalankannya: punya mimpi dan rasa penasaran.)
Kenapa mereka bisa berani sukses? Karena mereka sudah memperhitungkan faktor risiko.
Kenapa mereka bisa bertindak dengan benar? Karena mereka tahu tips-tips yang tepat.
Dll, dst....
This network is such new thing for my mind karena saya juga dapat pengetahuan dan melatih kemampuan saya, ngga sekedar job description!
........
Saya bersyukur, beberapa waktu yang lalu sempat mendapat training online yang diadakan oleh grup bisnis saya dBC Network. Tentu saja ini untuk kepentingan bisnis marketing di luar urusan kantor. Yup, bisnis Oriflame. Padahal MLM apapun produknya sempat menjadi momok bagi saya, sehingga saya lebih memilih jadi anakbuah saja di perusahaan orang lain.
Eh, emang sebenernya member-member MLM itu anakbuah atau independent, sih? Koq ada yang namanya downline, yang otomatis di benak para calon member mereka akan jadi (seolah-olah) bawahan para upline?
Mungkin karena saya juga belum lama join di usaha ini, maka saya pikir wajar kalau saya jadi sering memperhatikan di mana letak bedanya. Seperti contoh, saat saya tidak bisa memenuhi syarat tupo untuk mendapat bonus. Memang sebenarnya tidak ada pemaksaan. Jadi tidak ada keharusan pula untuk takut, sampai mengarang alasan, 'Aduh, saya ...... sorry, ya ......' seolah kita adalah bawahan yang akan mendapat teguran dari atasan. No! Kalau toh saya sempat memberi jawaban seperti itu, itu hanya bentuk rasa sungkan saja. Kasihan kan, upline yang sudah perhatian. :)) So, upline di sini hanya mengingatkan saja.
Memang, bukan berarti kita tidak bisa bergabung jika niat dari awal memang bukan untuk bisnis, melainkan untuk mendapat diskon, misalnya. Cumaa.. jika ternyata bisa dijadikan usaha kedua, dan mungkin nantinya justru jadi usaha utama, saya pikir ngga ada ruginya dicoba, dong. Justru bukan hanya ngga ada ruginya, melainkan rugi kalau sampai tidak diniatin untuk dicoba. :)) Keuntungannya buat diri kita sendiri, koq. Dan buktinya sudah banyak yang sukses. Salahsatunya, founder jaringan saya sendiri, mba Nad.
Memang, sewajarnya tidak ada bisnis yang langsung dengan mudah dilakoni. Setidaknya ini menurut saya (dan tentunya beberapa member lain). Perlu waktu menyesuaikan diri, baik sebagai penjual, downline dan kemudian sebagai upline. Namun di sinilah letaknya, saya makin penasaran dengan yang namanya "kemampuan". Mungkin karena bagi saya, yang juga menarik dari tiap perjuangan selain keuntungan adalah usaha nyatanya sendiri. Sama halnya dengan rasa suka saya jika menyimak perjalanan usaha wirausahawan secara mandiri, dari nol sampai sukses. Jiwa enterpreneurship. hmm.. (Jempol buat kesuksesan mereka, apapun bidang usahanya.)
Well, posting entri ini bukan berarti saya sudah perfect. Belum banget. Saya masih baru di sini. Tapi saya tetap terus belajar. Harus fokus! Kan saya sendiri yang menginginkan ikut, karena selain ingin mewujudkan mimpi saya juga merasa tertarik. Penasaran. Karena sebenarnya banyak ilmu yang bisa saya gali untuk kekayaan mindset saya sendiri. (Dan finally, saya jadi menemukan formula sendiri buat menjalankannya: punya mimpi dan rasa penasaran.)
Kenapa mereka bisa berani sukses? Karena mereka sudah memperhitungkan faktor risiko.
Kenapa mereka bisa bertindak dengan benar? Karena mereka tahu tips-tips yang tepat.
Dll, dst....
This network is such new thing for my mind karena saya juga dapat pengetahuan dan melatih kemampuan saya, ngga sekedar job description!
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Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Jangan Anggap Remeh Tata Rias Wajah!
Ini buat kalian yang sibuk sebagai wanita karier, ataupun jika pekerjaan kalian memang mengandalkan penampilan yang enak dipandang selain dari skill yang kamu miliki. (iyaa, maksud gue kalau kerja jadi sekretaris kan mesti pintar ngurus kerjaan kantor dan penampilan juga, gethoo...)
Eh, bukan itu saja. Buat ibu-ibu rumah-tangga juga. Kan ibu-ibu itu sering kebagian tugas mendampingi suami, ke undangan misalnya... Kadang yang ngga suka dandan jadi merasa perlu dandan. hehehe... Daaan, jika memang ini saat pertama kali klen (kalian, maksud saya) mencoba menggunakan tata rias yang alami, kenapa ngga coba ikuti tips di atas? Kalau perlu catat segala keperluan, lalu order produk yang dibutuhkan.
By the way, tips ini saya dapat dari upline saya di Oriflame. Selamat mencoba! Atau mau jadi downline saya? Boleeh...! ;) Klik di sini, ya! Thank youu... ;)
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Monday, October 24, 2011
Accepting
It's about half a year ago. The messages. Building the friendship. Sometimes we weren’t sure with a friendship we built, because we didn’t see the take-and-give fairly. Symbiotic mutualism. That’s what I worried about. Meanwhile at the same time I thought, that it’s not fair to judge the others by their inability. As I didn’t really like to be judged like that. But I couldn’t lie that I couldn’t see the take and give fairly. I worried he would make me busy to do his request, meanwhile I need so much time for my job and myself. I couldn’t lie…
He was just an acquaintance. At least at that time. What happened then? I only wanted to make friend with the one who’s introduced us. With him, the introduced one? I just tried to look fine, getting in touch through social media, or look nice when we met. Sounds hypocrisy? Oh…
Until today. I got a message in the most popular social media, FB. He told me about his condition, and hoped me to wish him health. He also wrote his feeling on his blog. I had browsed his blog, responded by his old friends. Well, here I begun to realize that to keep distance sometimes wasn’t always the right choice. But how? How to anticipate the unpleasant possibilities?
By that time, I wanted to wake up from the bad traits. Not fair! Not fair! I said in my mind, for the bad assumption which I had tried to keep up. I didn’t trust him fully yet. But I understand, what I should do is to prevent myself from regret because I’ve always been thinking negative. I knew, it could makes me loose chance to do any good things to the others.
At least I had to understand how to be good from my heart, treat him without bad assumption too much, and the most important is, I need to accept him like the others. About the take-and-give fairly, it's about my ability. As long as he understood, no problem.
Well, who am I?
He was just an acquaintance. At least at that time. What happened then? I only wanted to make friend with the one who’s introduced us. With him, the introduced one? I just tried to look fine, getting in touch through social media, or look nice when we met. Sounds hypocrisy? Oh…
Until today. I got a message in the most popular social media, FB. He told me about his condition, and hoped me to wish him health. He also wrote his feeling on his blog. I had browsed his blog, responded by his old friends. Well, here I begun to realize that to keep distance sometimes wasn’t always the right choice. But how? How to anticipate the unpleasant possibilities?
By that time, I wanted to wake up from the bad traits. Not fair! Not fair! I said in my mind, for the bad assumption which I had tried to keep up. I didn’t trust him fully yet. But I understand, what I should do is to prevent myself from regret because I’ve always been thinking negative. I knew, it could makes me loose chance to do any good things to the others.
At least I had to understand how to be good from my heart, treat him without bad assumption too much, and the most important is, I need to accept him like the others. About the take-and-give fairly, it's about my ability. As long as he understood, no problem.
Well, who am I?
Thursday, October 20, 2011
Exercise, Dear!
Dear friends,
Have you ever felt this? Lately, sometimes I feel something unpleasant with my breathing. Ouch.. I hate that. I could not breath as free as usual, although it’s still resolved.
Then, I remember a tweet mentioned to me, some months ago. My online friend told me that she had did a walk in the morning for at least 30 minutes. Yup, just walking. I imagine, she did it with her husband, or neighbours; one or two women staying next to her house, while talking about kids and their home business.
And then? What’s the correlation between talking about those all and breathing? Here I imagine, that it’s not always hard to to an exercise. Do it with fun. Don’t be lazy, by imagine that as a hard work.
Well, actually that’s a self note for me. Just doing alone, to manage my time easily. Because after that, I have to get ready to work in a hurry. haha... I have to choose that way, to give my body a light gymnastic, to help my lung work well. Even, we don’t only need diet to have good body. Diet and exercise are in one packaging.
Have you ever felt this? Lately, sometimes I feel something unpleasant with my breathing. Ouch.. I hate that. I could not breath as free as usual, although it’s still resolved.
Then, I remember a tweet mentioned to me, some months ago. My online friend told me that she had did a walk in the morning for at least 30 minutes. Yup, just walking. I imagine, she did it with her husband, or neighbours; one or two women staying next to her house, while talking about kids and their home business.
And then? What’s the correlation between talking about those all and breathing? Here I imagine, that it’s not always hard to to an exercise. Do it with fun. Don’t be lazy, by imagine that as a hard work.
Well, actually that’s a self note for me. Just doing alone, to manage my time easily. Because after that, I have to get ready to work in a hurry. haha... I have to choose that way, to give my body a light gymnastic, to help my lung work well. Even, we don’t only need diet to have good body. Diet and exercise are in one packaging.
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Wednesday, September 14, 2011
I Am Single Now And I Can Not Lie
It’s hard for me to lie to myself. Of course! And in this case, I can’t lie about my age. I can’t deny that I’ve been too old to be called as a teenager. I mean, we can have many dreams and spirit, but we have to understand how to realize it with good policy. Such as the estimation of health to do it, time priority, and estimation of costs, for everything we want to achieve takes money, including the unpredictable ones.
This afternoon, I was talking to a friend of mine. Again and again, we talked about a friend. The friend who’s still single like me. I mean, we aren’t married yet. May be someday. Who knows our future yet? We only can do the best we can. Hey, how is she now? I haven’t been seeing her for days.
Simply, from our conversation before finishing our sweet drinks, and by some information in online forums, I got some points to think about.
Being single while most of our friends has got children (if we're still singles), means we have to manage our life as if we have got married too. I mean, our lifestyle. Our way on spending money; posting our income for some priorities included pension, beside for our indulgence. How if someday, it turns out that we really don’t get married? Who knows? If it happen, who will provide us? (for it's common that husbands provides the family.)
I think single life shouldn’t always signed by having fun and independence. It’s also signed by being responsible to ourselves, for less people will trust us if we treat ourselves too easily. Yes. If we treat our body impolitely, then we get sick, no wonder people will judge us.
By the way, I knew another single woman whose life was good enough. At least that’s my opinion. I met her in our church, wearing dress like a really married woman; not girly or tomboy, and being active in the community. Right, I won’t realize that she wasn’t married if my mother didn’t tell me. By her attitude, I could see that she was a mature one. Not a ‘girl’ who still loved to have fun and wasting money as if there’s no tomorrow.
Well, hereby I only want to share my opinion, not to judge the singles or support the married ones. And I don’t mean to inspire you just to stay single or get married. The choice is in your hand, people! And me, who knows my future except God the Almighty? ;)
ilustration source: jupiterimages.com
This afternoon, I was talking to a friend of mine. Again and again, we talked about a friend. The friend who’s still single like me. I mean, we aren’t married yet. May be someday. Who knows our future yet? We only can do the best we can. Hey, how is she now? I haven’t been seeing her for days.
Simply, from our conversation before finishing our sweet drinks, and by some information in online forums, I got some points to think about.
Being single while most of our friends has got children (if we're still singles), means we have to manage our life as if we have got married too. I mean, our lifestyle. Our way on spending money; posting our income for some priorities included pension, beside for our indulgence. How if someday, it turns out that we really don’t get married? Who knows? If it happen, who will provide us? (for it's common that husbands provides the family.)
I think single life shouldn’t always signed by having fun and independence. It’s also signed by being responsible to ourselves, for less people will trust us if we treat ourselves too easily. Yes. If we treat our body impolitely, then we get sick, no wonder people will judge us.
By the way, I knew another single woman whose life was good enough. At least that’s my opinion. I met her in our church, wearing dress like a really married woman; not girly or tomboy, and being active in the community. Right, I won’t realize that she wasn’t married if my mother didn’t tell me. By her attitude, I could see that she was a mature one. Not a ‘girl’ who still loved to have fun and wasting money as if there’s no tomorrow.
Well, hereby I only want to share my opinion, not to judge the singles or support the married ones. And I don’t mean to inspire you just to stay single or get married. The choice is in your hand, people! And me, who knows my future except God the Almighty? ;)
ilustration source: jupiterimages.com
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